NEW YORK, July 13 /PRNewswire/ -- BRIDES magazine September/October 2005
special issue Marrying at 20, 30, 40 addresses the phenomenon of cold feet and
helps brides-to be determine if the jitters they feel are normal or a symptom
of something more serious. The issue offers brides examples of commonplace
angst plus advice on recognizing when its time to call off the wedding.
BRIDES magazine Editor in Chief Millie Martini Bratten says "Jennifer
Wilbanks the so called runaway bride brought to light some of the anxiety a
bride-to-be may feel about her upcoming wedding. Feeling nervous is normal,
but it's important to recognize when nerves are overshadowing happiness. It's
far less painful to break an engagement that it is to dissolve a marriage."
BRIDES magazine and New York psychiatrist John W. Jacobs MD offers the
following advice to nervous brides when evaluating their feelings:
> Persistent doubt about a conflict between you and your fiance
> Being withdrawn or grumpy. This can indicate second thoughts that you
are not articulating
> Indecision about choosing a date, location etc
> Lack of Interest in wedding planning
ANALYZING THE ANGST: ASK YOURSELF THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS
> Can you resolve your difference?
> Have you sowed your wild oats?
> Are you stressed about the wedding or about the marriage itself?
> Start counseling as early in the planning stages as possible - before
the invitations are ordered
If a bride-to-be identifies her feelings and realizes her frozen feet
cannot be thawed, BRIDES magazine recommends the following on breaking the
news and tips on how to undo the "I do's."
HOW TO BREAK THE NEWS
> Tell the fiance the news in private and with all the kindness and
humility you can muster. Give as much detail as possible without
placing blame for the break-up, even if you think it's his fault.
> Let your parents know. Explain your actions and give them as many
concrete examples as possible.
> The rest of the world is not your problem. If you constantly try to
meet the expectations of others, you'll lose control over your own
TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS
> Officiant - Call and explaining the situation personally.
> Florist, caterer etc- Check your contract to see if it offers refunds.
> Bridal party - You call the girls; he calls the guys.
> Guests - If there's enough time send out a printed card announcing the
news. If it is short notice guests should be called and personally
told the news. No emailing or leaving messages
> Wedding announcements - Phone the local paper to cancel it. If you
can't reach someone, send an email and ask for a confirmation.
> Gifts - Send the gifts back with a short note of thanks. No other
explanation is necessary other than "the wedding has been cancelled."
The September/October 2005 issue of BRIDES magazine is available on
newsstands on July 15, 2005. For more information log on to www.brides.com.
BRIDE'S magazine is the leading Bridal publication in America, published by
the Fairchild Bridal Group.
SOURCE BRIDES magazine