OTTAWA, June 12, 2013 /CNW/ - Summer is when most Canadians get married and thus the season when most couples celebrate their wedding anniversary. While most couples do their very best to be romantic on that special day, some 36 percent report they have a romantic "romp" only because they feel obliged.
Couples want to have a great intimate connection but after years of exchanging flowers and going out for dinner, couples looking for ways to keep the wedding anniversary fresh are finding that limited budgets, time and energy often leave them short on inspiration.
Relationship expert Dr. Trina Read and author of "Till Sex Do Us Part" has a radical suggestion: couples should look to each other for stimulation on their wedding anniversary.
The Spark at the Start
"The energy that powers the early stages of a relationship is based on a sense of mutual exploration and experimentation - the thrill that comes with trying something new," says Dr. Read. "Couples first starting out are breaking their routines, they're exploring together…That's the kind of anniversary all couples should look to for inspiration, something that asks them to step into new territory as a couple."
Dr. Read recommends couples forego anything "traditional" about their anniversaries, like returning to their favourite restaurant or going to see the latest blockbuster. Instead, she says, "Trying new things releases dopamine into your brain and is one of the few ways couples can feel that 'snap-of-a-new-relationship-thrill' like when you were first dating. Try an offbeat restaurant, and try it for lunch. And instead of a movie, go to a concert - but see a band both of you have never heard of."
These are the kinds of mini-adventures couples go on when they're first courting, and they're a great way to connect a marriage to the magic of its early days.
The Sex Elephant
After dinner and drinks out, many couples confront the daunting prospect of "Anniversary Sex Anxiety" - the sense that they should cap off the evening with sex, even if they're not in the mood.
Research bears this out; while many couples are still in love after several years of marriage, more than one in three report that they have "obligation sex" to mark major events like anniversaries.
Dr. Read asserts that anniversary sex should be something couples look forward to for days. One of the missteps couples make is that "they try to pack so many things into the day that, when sex time rolls around, they've eaten too much, had some wine, been all over town…and they're just too worn out to have enjoyable, fulfilling sex," says Dr. Read.
Her advice for couples is to eat lightly and drink in moderation so they'll have energy for sex. And, as with other aspects of the celebration, Dr. Read advises couples to try something new.
Instead of traditional anniversary presents, Dr. Read suggests that couples instead go with a gift that's both romantic and adventurous and builds their intimate connection, such as the We-Vibe 3 - a vibrator that's been expressly designed for couples.
"Giving your partner a couples' vibrator not only shows interest in reconnecting sexually, it also sends a message about a renewed interest in sexual adventure," she says. "You're telling your partner, 'There's no one I'd rather do this with than you.' That's a powerfully romantic statement."
The We-Vibe 3 in Detail
The We-Vibe 3 has been designed for wear during intercourse to maximize pleasure for both partners. Small, discreet and powerful, the We-Vibe 3 enhances the best parts of making love — intimacy and orgasm. Couples may enjoy an anniversary that rivals their wedding night for pleasure, passion and desire for more.
To help Canadian couples get closer than ever, this summer, We-Vibe is offering a "Renew Your Wows" special on We-Vibe 3. For free shipping on We-Vibe 3, enter the coupon code: SUMMERWOWS at we-vibe.com. This offer is valid through July 15, 2013.
Image with caption: "Summer is the season of wedding anniversaries -- In honour of the season the makers of We-Vibe invite married couples to "renew their wows" with the first-ever vibrator bouquet. After all, experts like Dr. Trina Read say sex may be the best anniversary gift of all. (CNW Group/We-Vibe)". Image available at: http://photos.newswire.ca/images/download/20130612_C7562_PHOTO_EN_27919.jpg
SOURCE: We-Vibe
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