LOS ANGELES, Feb. 19, 2016 /PRNewswire/ -- According to L.A.'s premier family law mediator, Mark Baer, Valentine's Day is an important day for people in loving relationships, but it can't compensate for having taken each other for granted the rest of the year.
Baer, who has practiced family law mediation since 2000 and was named, "Most Compassionate Family Mediator – California," says, "For those of you in happy romantic relationships, regardless of whether or not this past Valentine's Day exceeded or even met your expectations, it wouldn't hurt to improve your communication moving forward. If nothing else, try and assess the ratio of positive to negative comments you make to one another. Chances are, you may need to make some adjustments in that regard, if you value your significant other and hope to celebrate many more love and romance filled Valentine's Days together."
Baer feels, "We also tend to take each other for granted, except possibly on holidays such as Valentine's Day. In his book, 'What Predicts Divorce?: The Relationship Between Marital Processes and Marital Outcomes,' John Gottman found, 'The single biggest determinant [as to whether or not wedded couples will divorce] is the ratio of positive to negative comments the partners make to one another… He found that the optimal ratio was five positive comments to every negative one… For those who ended up divorced, the ratio was something like three positive comments for every four negative ones.'
"Improving the manner in which we communicate with our spouse or significant other throughout the entire year costs us nothing, yet the potential rewards are priceless," Baer concluded.
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