LONGWOOD, Fla., Sept. 27, 2011 /PRNewswire/ -- They're feared, revered ... sometimes jeered. They've been the butt of countless jokes and even have a phobia named after them: Pentheraphobia, fear of your mother-in-law.
Now the authors of a new dual-cover book hope to bring extended families closer together with Why Her?: You, Your Mother-in-Law / Daughter-in-Law and the Big Picture. Side one was written by Becky Hunter, who has led seminars on five continents and was featured in TIME magazine for her support of pastors' wives. She is the wife of Dr. Joel C. Hunter, noted pastor of Northland, A Church Distributed and spiritual advisor to President Obama. Side two was written by Becky's daughters-in-law: Lisa Hunter, Rhonda Hunter and Elizabeth Hunter.
"We read every article and book we could find on the topic - which didn't take all that long, because there isn't much out there that considers this relationship in a positive light," laments Becky Hunter.
In their research, and in doing life together, the Hunters discovered that mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law often have relationship difficulties because they both love the same man - one tends to see him as someone to protect, and the other perceives him as her protector.
While the book is more about why women should invest in their in-laws than how to do it, Becky offers this sage advice on becoming the mother-in-law you wish you had:
- Be aware of your personal insecurities, and don't take action based on them.
- Phrase your requests of your daughter-in-law in the form of invitations.
- Take note of her responses in your interactions with her. If she is non-responsive or frustrated, she may be interpreting your communication as demanding. If so, communicate differently.
- Give her time to be the initiator. You may be pleasantly surprised at what she invites you to if you never pressure her.
- Finally, pray that you will never intentionally or unintentionally set up your daughter-in-law to fail.
Becky Hunter concludes, "Whether you find your daughter-in-law's values and points of view to be points of connection or hurdles to leap, ask God to bring you closer to your daughter-in-law. He loves your son's bride, and He will help you love her, too."
Hardcover and Kindle versions of Why Her? are available at amazon.com.
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SOURCE Northland, A Church Distributed