NEW YORK, April 29, 2014 /PRNewswire/ -- Whose Mother's Day is it anyway, when the children of a blended family identify "Mom" on Mother's Day?

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"Often, Mother's Day brings up memories of the bitter taste of divorce. That's something that few children understand, are proud of, or easily reconcile later in life," said Bernard Bushell, author of the new relationship book "The Formula: How I Found It and What It Can Do For You."

He encourages men and women to find the right partner, better understand each other from the outset, improve their relationship, and avoid divorce.

"Mother's Day can be the most trying holiday of the year. It opens wounds that more than half of married people face," said Bushell whose formula is E/S = R in which 'E' stands for ego, the mantra for men; "S" stands for Security, the driving force for women which equals 'R' which stands for Relationship.

"The formula is a scenario based on our hunter and gatherer origins but updated to work for today's hectic and complex lifestyles. It is clear, concise and easy to remember," he said. "If the female's S (security) does not support a man's E (ego) it is difficult to have a R (relationship)."

"Children are our future. They often do not understand the concept of divorce and live a life of confusion," said Bushell, who speaks firsthand of how his divorce impacted his own family. "The basic premise is that through education, males and females can understand their own traits and characteristics before establishing permanent relationships."

About "The Formula"

"The Formula" can lower our soaring divorce rate and remedy the damage it causes to relationships, families and children.

Drawing on a lifetime of experience, Bushell has created an original and effective blueprint to build more fulfilling lives.

"An excellent self-help book, its wisdom is shared in the context of a well-written, eminently readable life story!" said Mathilda B. Canter, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, Phoenix, AZ, past president of the Division of Psychotherapy, American Psychological Association.

" 'The Formula' is an original and engaging consideration of love and marriage that provides hope, help, and fresh new ideas," said Margaret Boe Birns, Adjunct Assistant Professor, NYU.

"The Formula, How I Found It and What It Can Do For You," is available on Amazon and as an e-book. It is soon to be released as an audiobook on Audible.com.

About Bernard Bushell

Bernard Bushell is a former public relations professional whose work with thousands of women throughout his careers in real estate and retailing has provided the basis of this book.

He cites his life experience of being married for 18 years and fathering three children. He was then single for 14 years and dated 50 women. He has been happily married for the past 20 years. He was the owner of seven ladies' wear stores where he employed 100 women and served thousands of female customers in seven locations.

He is a graduate of the E.W. Scripps School of Journalism at Ohio University.

To book Mr. Bushell for conferences, workshops, readings, and discussions about "The Formula," contact him via email. 

For information, go to www.bernardbushell.com

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