Therapist Says Valentine's Day Is a Sham
It's Time to Dump the Fantasy That Makes You Miserable!
VANCOUVER, Jan. 14, 2014 /PRNewswire/ -- Valentine's Day brings with it a host of unrealistic expectations that are guaranteed to make us very unhappy. In fact, these expectations have become so over the top that it's time to bring them back to earth, according to Vancouver-based therapist Candace Plattor.
"We are all supposed to be wildly in love with a 'perfect' (read physically beautiful with lots of hair on his head and no cellulite on her hips) person who will shower us with diamonds and expensive chocolates, while gazing soulfully and lovingly into our eyes. In the same dream-state, we become the perfect person for him or her as well, unable to do anything wrong in their estimation," she says.
Hogwash!
This Valentine's Day Plattor wants to encourage men and women to celebrate their love for themselves at the same time they celebrate their love for their significant others. She can discuss a different sort of Valentine's Day that includes:
* Buying yourself some flowers or a box of chocolates or having a spa day to celebrate how amazing you are.
* Volunteering at a local animal shelter to share your love with the animals.
* Refusing to believe that "you're nobody till somebody loves you." Instead, use the day to feel proud of yourself.
CREDENTIALS: Candace Plattor has been both a registered clinical counselor and addiction therapist for more than 25 years. In her practice she specializes in helping people with unhealthy relationship dynamics, problem gambling, Internet addiction, disordered eating, and substance abuse; she has also been an addict herself, the result of taking medications prescribed to treat her Crohn's disease. She has been clean and sober for 27 years. Plattor is the author of the award-winning, newly revised edition of Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction. A popular television and radio guest, Plattor has been interviewed by the Vancouver Sun and blogs regularly for Huffington Post and other online publications.
AVAILABILITY: Internationally via Skype as well as nationwide in Canada and the U.S. by arrangement and via telephone
CONTACT: Candace Plattor, (604) 677-5876; Email; www.candaceplattor.com
SOURCE Candace Plattor
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