VISTA, Calif., March 12, 2013 /PRNewswire/ -- St. Patrick's Day conjures up images of green beer, the green Chicago River, and of course hitting the local bars for pints of Guinness or Murphy's. While it might seem like it's just a day for drunken revelry, it can also be a good chance to try out some nonverbal flirting at the bar or during a parade.
Meeting an interesting person in a singles' bar or similar setting does not have to be an exercise in futility. The key is to give off the right nonverbal signals which will encourage communication. Astroglide Sexual Health & Relationship Ambassador Yvonne K. Fulbright offers some insights from her own research as well as two classic books on the importance of nonverbal communication.
In his 1978 classic book "The Nonverbal Dictionary of Gestures, Signs & Body Language Cues," author David Givens describes the process of heterosexual courtship for women as a set of four different phases:
- The Attention Stage comes first and includes primping, glancing at and away from the man, and caressing inanimate objects.
- The Recognition Phase is next, where women might flash their eyebrows, smile, cock their head to their side, or pout as ways to express their interest.
- Conversation is next initiated in the Interaction Stage, where animated talking, laughing, and excited gestures occur.
- Finally comes the Sexual Arousal Phase, where physical touches are exchanged, a possible prelude to a further date.
Dr. Fulbright offers her own thoughts on using both nonverbal cues and a bit of common sense to pique the interest of the opposite sex:
- Check your posture and walking gait to ensure you showcase your confidence.
- Make eye contact, but don't stare too intently. Show you are interested, but not imbalanced.
- Put your hand on the person's shoulder if they make a joke (but don't let it linger).
- Mirroring the other person's body language can be a subtle way to make them feel more comfortable (just don't overdo it).
- Look at the flirting signals as a whole before jumping to conclusions. If a woman brushes her hair while talking to a man, she could just be moving it out of her face.
Dr. Fulbright also references the importance of Monica Moore's 1985 book "Nonverbal Courtship Patterns in Women" which describes how heterosexual women exhibit nonverbal cues in a singles' bar setting. The book stated that women who signaled more often were most likely to be approached by a man, and their behaviors such as laughing, smiling, and leaning in closely were amplified after contact was made. For men in these scenarios, they often reported feeling like they were taking the initiative when in fact they were merely responding to nonverbal cues.
"From my years of experience teaching people about relationships and sex, I frequently talk about the importance of nonverbal communication," said Dr. Fulbright. "We perceive certain things about potential partners at just a glance, so nonverbal cues are vitally important to make a good and lasting impression. They can be especially useful in a loud and crowded venue such as a bar, where conversation might be limited."
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is a noted international sexologist, sex educator, author, relationship expert, advice columnist, and television and radio personality. She holds a Ph.D. in International Community Health Studies from New York University and is the author of nine books regarding sexuality and relationships. To sign up for Yvonne's daily tips on enhancing sexual satisfaction, and to read an informative Q&A section, visit http://www.astroglide.com/askyvonne.aspx.
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